One has to choose the word carefully, but sometimes we utter offensive words without any prior intention or desire to harm.
But we are human beings and we are not infallible. We do our best to communicate with others in a decent and respectful manner, but today it seems that we live in an increasingly angry world.
Remember that the best way to get rid of hatred and anger is by solving problems and not avoiding confrontation. Feelings of resentment lead to unwanted negative consequences, whatever the type of relationship. There is a healthy way to deal with a mistake, whether it is a conflict with your husband or a problem with your co-worker, think of these 10 ways to respond well when you feel offended.
1 – Caution
Sometimes, the best response to any hostile or insulting behavior is not to respond. But if a response is necessary, it is best to wait a moment to review what happened and how you can respond with caution and avoid a judgmental rush.
2 – Calm
Sometimes we wake up with a burning desire to kill someone and involuntarily seek to quarrel. If you are feeling this way, be calm and wait until your mood changes. Do not allow negative feelings to dominate your thoughts and words.
3 – Don’t take it personally
Avoid taking things sensitively and personally. Know that when someone, whether it is your husband, girlfriend, or co-worker, makes any remark, it may only catch your eye and have nothing to do with you personally. Be confident. Don’t allow anyone to influence your confidence or create self-doubt. Ignore hateful comments. Although difficult to do, ignoring negative comments forces them to stop doing so.
4 – Confrontation
Ignoring is not always the best option. If the abuser does not stop insulting you, then you should confront them face to face. Here ignoring is no longer an option, but rather an explanation. You have to express your dissatisfaction in a clear and direct way to release tension. Yeah!!! You have to confront them about their behavior. Try to approach them and communicate with them to a state of peace.
5 – Clarity
Think clearly about the points you want to connect and write down the main points so they are clear to you. Offer your view of what happened simply and in a succinct manner so that the other person can understand your discomfort. Avoid mentioning small details so as not to get lost in the Byzantine maze and debate to no avail.